Annette Bening Elle Fanning Greta Gerwig Billy Crudup Lucas Jade Zumann
A film about women, yes, but just as much about
motherhood. It’s 1979, and
Dorothea (Bening) has tenants and an occasional visitor in her 19th Century
house in Santa Barbara. She has
her son Jamie (Zumann), Julie (Fanning) who comes only by night to talk and
sleep in Jamie’s bed, Abbie (Gerwig), an artist who’s run away from home and
renting a room, and William (Crudup) who has a room in the house but is doing
major remodeling of it. Perhaps
without realizing it, Dorothea has created a family with the utmost intention
of providing the best she can for her son. It’s a little bit sad that she has no awareness of her own
needs in this regard.
Jamie is a thoughtful child who asks his mother
probing questions that, to him, she avoids answering (like, whether she’s
happy); and when at one point she asks why he’s not open with her, Jamie
retorts that he’s not the one who doesn’t talk. And when she asks why he has done something dangerous, he
smartly asks her why she smokes.
These questions do not seem to get through to her.
Later, she becomes more anxious about Jamie’s
progress (understandably—he’s 14-15) and enlists the help of Julie and Abbie, with
both of whom, Jamie seems to have a close relationship. She had already engaged William,
thinking that Jamie needed a masculine influence (never realizing until someone pointed it out that the two
had little in common).
What follows is the story of young women
influencing the development of a teenage boy. Dorothea has grave misgivings from time to time, but when
she confronts Julie and Abbie she gets her misconceptions corrected and is
reassured (thanks to her trust and confidence in them). This is a fine illustration of how
motherhood can just be a muddling through, with no guarantee of the
outcome. Dorothea has many
soul-searching moments about how she’s doing as a mother, but unlike most
mothers, she has younger people close by to explain to her what is going on.
In observing Dorothea, we get the perspective
of her generation, instructive to a fault, prone to deny anything negative
(although anxious about it), but wanting to maintain control of a son’s
life. To her credit, she trusts
her “family”, and steps aside for Julie and Abbie to be his primary advisers
(not that they have everything together).
Williams gently supports and advises her, but is respectful of her
space.
Perhaps this is a modern day fable about
feminism and motherhood and how both need to accommodate to a changing
world. Women need help in their
mothering and need to consider some of their own interests. Men can help by being more sensitive to
women and letting go of some of their feeling of responsibility for them.
Mike Mills, writer-director of the film, has
said it is partially autobiographical, and I think that is apparent in his
sensitivity to Dorothea’s situation as she perceives it and the different
perspectives shown by the characters.
Above all, I appreciate his nonjudgmental, empathic depiction of the
characters.
Bening, Fanning, Gerwig, and Crudup are perfect
in their roles, and young Zumann is a treasure in his portrayal of a young man
beset by so many influences. Music
by Roger Neill enhances every scene and helps us enjoy the lightheartedness of
the whole production.
Motherhood as you’ve not seen it
before.
Grade: A By Donna
R. Copeland
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